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Yeah, me too. Seems like so long ago already! We FINALLY picked out pictures to go in to our wedding album. Cannot wait to see what April Smith comes up with – I’m sure it’ll be something incredible.

So I figured it’s time to finally share some photos of our Hallowedding on this here little (forgotten) blog! There a BILLION to choose from. A BILLION that I love. So I’ll be scattering them out in to seperate posts Today I’ll be sharing some details, getting ready, and the first look. Ready? Lets go!

Good luck!

Our welcome sign that Michelle, the lady that owns Jones Victorian Estate, made for us. How awesome is that!? I love her. I wish I could keep her in my back pocket to plan all our events in our lives! This sign was the first thing our guests saw.

My lovely dress.

My bitchin’ skeleton tights that I found on Ebay. Too bad they were hidden under my dress most of the night.

My momma tying my sash and helping me out with my GORGEOUS amethyst necklace that David bought me for a wedding gift. <3 It was perfect because I didn’t really have a necklace that I wanted to wear.

Some lip stick shots. My little sister giving me a hand. She did my make-up for me. Came out great, huh?

This one is pretty awesome

My witchey shoes. 

My bouquet that Flower Allie did an amazing job on. LOVED those thistles.

Now, my handsome husband <3

How awesome is his tie!

Ready to get this show on the road!

Our invites. We got lucky with these big bad mammajammas. Found them at Michaels and I fell in love! They match PERFECTLY! So instead of making the whole thing ourselves, we bought them

We did add on to the RSVP cards though. Cut and paste on the fence with the raven.

Cute shot of our rings <3

Now, the first look. I’m SO happy we decided to do this. Is what such a precious moment for just the two of us. Well, and the photographers  

Notice where David’s gaze is falling We bought my dress 6 sizes too big to fit my chichis… unfortunately the first lady we went to for alterations cut in some strange darts that made that area just a bit too small for my dirty pillows -.-

“You learn about the cruelty of time, the cruelty of fickleness. You learn that it’s possible for the person who knew you the best to eventually know nothing at all. You counted on them always knowing. You took solace in someone keeping score. But reliance is the first thing to go in a break up. You lose the right to call someone. You lose the right to ask how they’re doing. Imagine that. One day you had a VIP pass to their life and the next, you’re shut out completely. They’ll tell their grandma more things than they’d tell you.”

I saw this on a ladies blog that I read & it is so relevant to how I’ve been feeling. Although, I must say, this is a different kind of breakup. & definitely not the first. Never gets easier.

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As an early (A whopping 5 months. That’s how I roll.) birthday present to David, Emily and I went in together and got some awesome seats for him and his best friend, Taylor, to go to the Ducks .vs. Kings game in LA.  It was perfect because David is a Ducks fan and Taylor is a Kings fan!  I decided to be their chauffeur for the night so they could both party for their birthdays, but wasn’t too thrilled with the fact that I’d be stuck out in LA, by myself, while they were in the game.  Lys had a class to make up, Sarah was in San Diego, & Emily didn’t end up coming down with Taylor.  My dad ended up coming with me.  We went to the movies and saw Wanderlust & it turned out being a fun night! But that’s when it hit me – I have no friends/girlfriends.  Although this is something I have brought upon myself, it still makes me sad & almost depressed to think about it.  Sometimes it makes me even regret some of the choices I have made.

This past year I decided that I needed to start respecting myself more & get rid of all negativity in my life.  Its been quite a struggle, but I have a great family & husband, that support me wholeheartedly, to help me through it.  I let go of a handful of people that weren’t supportive; that couldn’t stand seeing me happy; that just flat out put me down or made me feel left out.  After all, those aren’t really friends.  A friendship is a relationship that both parties have to work to keep alive and I was feeling some relationships were very one-sided.  It’s funny to see how a friendship just dwindles away to almost nothing when that one side is taken away.  It’s a huge punch in the face of reality.  It hurts.  But this is life and I’ve come to terms with that.  Kind of.  These past couple of weeks I’ve been feeling REALLY down about it all.  I seriously considered emailing one of those friends to try and rekindle the friendship we once had, but since then have decided that that is a terrible idea.  Nothing had changed.. I found that out the last time we tried to be friends again.  So why would it be different this time?  I guess I just like the thought of having childhood friends still.  To be able to say, “We’ve been friends since the 4th grade!”  To have someone that really knows me.  But along with that feeling comes the bad feelings.  The fights over the DUMBEST things.  The one sided friendship.  The blame game – and it’s always my fault.  And the guilt trips.  But I’d have a girlfriend again!  Someone to drink wine with on any given week day.  Someone to call up & say, “OMG. Guess what?!” and have inside jokes from YEARS ago with.  To have that sisterhood that we once had back.  It seems as though the bad outweighs the good in this situation though because I’d be batshitcrazy to go back to that.  And everyone around me can and do tell me the same.  We used to have fun.  We used to do everything together.  We used to trust each other.  Now, I have to worry if she’s going to turn around & tell all my secrets to her other friends.  Or wonder if she talks as much shit on me as she does on her other so called “friends”.  That just isn’t right.  I understand people have their own opinions of people and weather they’d like to force those opinions on others is their own choice, but it just doesn’t seem like something you should have to worry about when it comes to your BEST FRIEND.  Two-faced is not a quality I want to see in my best friend.  But I still miss her.  Does it ever get easier?  This is worse than breaking up with a boyfriend!  I just have to keep my promise to myself and stay arms length away.  In the long run these will be the best decisions I’ve ever made – i just know it.  Just keep thinking of all the good people I have in my life and be thankful for them.  Give them my all instead of giving it to people who could really give two shits about me.  And I have a lot to give!

I’d rather have no friends than shitty friends.

Older women are JUST as bad as high school girls.  Hm, imagine that.  So that saying “it gets better with age” is a big steaming pile of bullshit?  I think so.

Welp, I’ll just keep my head down and steer clear.

Welp, it’s 2012! Last year went by entirely too quickly. I guess that’s what happens when you have a busy year, planning a wedding & all. We’re STILL working on writing and getting those thank you cards out ;\ Going on 3 months now..? Hey, better late than never, right?

I can’t wait to see what this year has in store for us. David has just this one last quarter of school before he graduates with a BS in Computer Science and I am SO proud of him! School comes easy for him, but these last quarters seem to be moving along slowly. It always happens like that, doesn’t it? Anyways, I plan on throwing a little shindig in honor of him. He deserves it. Me on the other hand… I just cannot bring myself to getting back in to school. Ugh. Me and school are not friends. I want to have my own little day care one day, so I’m working on getting the house finished up (FINALLY!) and getting the required certificates to do so. It’s all a work in progress. Always.

I’m also planning a baby shower for one of my co-workers! Planning parties is SO fun and stressful all at the same time. I’m kind of a perfectionist and over think the decor, so I go a little crazy during the planning process. But in the end, sitting back and looking at all the work I’ve done, makes me feel good. We’ll see how it goes! I’ll have to remember to bring in my camera that day. That’s next Friday & I’ve only bought some onesies and the gift.  I better get on it! I plan on making a banner and decorating with balloons, and flowers, of course. Make some cookies for favors? Yeah, sounds good.  Luckily, it’s a potluck, so I don’t have to worry about making all the food myself or finding somewhere to cater. This is all coming out of MY pocket btw. Not the company ;\

This Friday we have David’s best friend, Taylor’s birthday party to go to. It’s a themed party – we have to dress up like him! How fun is that?! So I’ll be wearing jeans, a plain shirt & a hoodie. EASY PEASY! My little sister got some mustaches to wear because Taylor is always trying to grow his out. I think I’ll have to thin out my mustache so it matches his ;D And the rest of the weekend will be dedicated to house chores, per the usual. We still have our Christmas tree (Hahah!), so that DEFINITELY needs to get dumped this weekend as well.

Until next time! <3

Its been a whole month since my last post? Oi. Well, clearly one of my new years resolutions will be to… WRITE MORE POSTS!

A quick little update of our lives… (at least I’ll try to make it quick)

We got our first Christmas tree together!

Growing up, we usually had a fake tree because the smell bothered my mom.  She has a sensitive sniffer So I was so so sooo excited to get a real guy!  We set him up right by our front door, so that’s the first thing you smell when you walk in… instead of dirty dishes

That little light up Santa holds a great place in my heart <3 That was my grandma’s & when she passed away my dad asked if I wanted it. Of course, I did! I used to have him on my desk, at my old job, year round.  Now he only comes out to add a little sparkle to our dinky Christmas decor.

We tortured both our cats purely for our own pleasure…

This only happened once, to each of them because they absolutely hated it The Santa hat/beard became an ornament on our tree instead.

We celebrated my niece, Montana’s, 12th birthday! I can’t believe she’ll be a little teenager next year!

Spent lots of time with family & friends…

These two. LOVE them <3 Taylor is David’s best friend and was also his best man in our wedding & Emily is a dear dear friend of mine. I’m so happy that Taylor has brought her in to my life. She is a little ray of sunshine. Always a good time when we hang out with them

Audrey and Avery always have fun jumping on David whenever we have family get togethers. It melts my stinkin’ heart. Cannot WAIT to see him with our own kids one day <3

Lys & I are both already 6foot. Add 5inch heels to that & you get two amazon women! Doesn’t help that Sarah & Misty are both just barely 5footers I was so happy that I got to see Misty when she was down visiting family for Christmas. And it’s always good seeing my dear friend, Sarah.

I made some awesome gifts! I’m REAL proud of myself. Found the idea on Pinterest and totally one-upped it!

They called it a “man-bouquet”. Cute, right?! My brothers were pleased as punch to receive them. What man wouldn’t be?!

We also received some pretty amazing hand made gifts…

David’s mom made these adorable owl pillows for us! When I opened them I asked where she bought them from! I’m still trying to convince her to make and sell them on etsy!

Oh, Christmas morning. I always feel so jolly during these holidays. Although it was 75+ degrees on Christmas day, it was lovely as ever. I was dressed in a heavier coat & a huge comfy scarf before we headed out to my parents, and David just looked at me and said, “You know it’s going to be like 80degrees today, right?” Bahumbug. Christmas is supposed to COLD! We’re supposed to be bundled up, sipping hot cocoa with loved ones around the fireplace! Not sweating bullets because you refuse to get dressed in a summer dress and stick to coats and scarves despite the fact that the sun was shining bright!

I also can’t let go of Halloween this year. It will always be a Halloween to remember, that’s for sure.

We spent an hour of our first Christmas as husband and wife in traffic, driving out to my Aunt’s house in Corona. Traffic going that way is alwaaays bad.

I hope everyone had an amazing Christmas and wish everyone the happiest, safest New Year!  2012 is going to be even better than 2011 – I can feel it! <3

Today is David and I’s ONE MONTH anniversary!  We made it!

What can I say about marriage?  Hm.  Well, it is nice to know that I have a partner in crime for the rest of my life.  It is very comforting to know that he will ALWAYS be there for me.  No matter what.  I consider myself a VERY lucky lady to have found him.  I know that’s what all women say about their husbands, but I TRULY believe it and FEEL it.  He is such a kind man.  So smart.  So devoted.  So funny.  So helpful.  So patient with me.  So everything I ever wanted in a man.  And he’s all mine <3  I love you, David.

Yaayyy!  Now that David and I are husband and wife, we get to go through all the “firsts” again!  We were lucky enough to eat three Thanksgiving meals this year.  Our first was spent with my brother-in-law’s family.  It’s always lovely to visit with them and listen to their amazing accents.  They came to the US from South Africa and we’re thankful that they did.  Without them my sister would not have met her husband and we would not have our handsome nephew, Devon.  Not to mention adding six more people to our extended family list.  I love family <3

Alice cuddling up to my little sister, Alyssa.

Cutest little Kayla showing us her best frog legs

Me, LovelyLys, and Haven

We also celebrated Leigh-Anne’s 18th birthday!

Our next Thanksgiving dinner was spent with my mom’s side of the family.  We all went up to my Tante Doris and Onkel Pat’s house for quite the feast!

Before heading up to my Aunt’s, I got to brush my kittynephew.

He CLEARLY loved it

Here is a lovely picture of all the boys.  Shorties in the middle!

My Onkel Pat with his silly apron!

David and I cheesin’ with one of my cousin’s daughters, Madeline <3

You can see EVERYTHING from their house.  They have the most wonderful view!  I just barely caught the sun going down over the mountains out in the distance – SO pretty!

Love it!

Our third Thanksgiving dinner took place at my dear friend Sarah’s house.  She had a Rock Band Pot Luck.  We were an hour & a half late because David was golfing with my dad and brother’s and we brought the STUFFING!  One of the main dishes!  Whoopsie ;\ It was a fun way to end our first Thanksgiving as husband and wife <3

Saw this video on Sometimes Sweet blog & knew I had to share:

Funny how people, mainly celebrities, can marry, divorce, and re-marry as many times as their little hearts desire, but men cannot get married.  Makes absolutely no sense to me.  It’s wrong.